The most important questions before the wedding

Before you start planning for your wedding, you should clarify the following basic questions or important points.

Our tip: When answering all questions, keep the motto in mind “Marry as YOU want!” .

When do we want to get married?

An important question before the wedding is choosing the right date. It is not always easy. The “right” date depends entirely on your own wishes: Do you value nice weather because you would like to celebrate outdoors or because of the wedding photos in the bright sun? Maybe a romantic winter wedding is just right for you?

Or do you have certain professional obligations that only allow a certain time window? There is often also a particularly symbolic date (e.g. 10th anniversary of getting to know each other) on which the wedding should take place. Make sure to announce the date in good time so that your guests can prepare for it!

Vacation trips are also often booked with an enormous lead time. If you do not have a desired date, but a specific time slot, then it is best to clarify the individual dates with the people you definitely want to have on your most beautiful day. All guests will not be able to appear anyway, so it is always very difficult to reconcile the schedule commitments of so many people.

If you prefer a specific location, then this must be taken into account when planning the appointment.  Many beautiful locations are booked out 12 months in advance. Also make sure that the pastor / priest and the church are available if you want to get married in church.

Tip: We have listed the tops & flops of the wedding dates 2019 and 2020  for you. You will also find the most popular wedding months  according to a Facebook survey on our blog.

As soon as the date is set, you should also book the other service providers. You can find an overview of suitable specialists in your area in our business directory.

Do we also want to get married in church?

Another important question before the wedding: You should determine as soon as possible whether you only  want a civil wedding or a church wedding . Alternative without church: a free wedding ceremony . We have a nice example for you as a photo story in our article “Celebrate your wedding romantically without a church” .

This decision is important for the further planning – after all, the time planning and possibly also the locality search depends on it.

You should also consider whether civil and ecclesiastical marriages should take place on the same day.

Since many registry offices, especially in the cities, do not offer a Saturday wedding, the civil ceremony can be scheduled a few days before the church wedding.

More and more bridal couples have passed months or even years between the two dates.

Some couples want to be legally married (for tax reasons or maybe because of possible children), but want to wait until the big party to save some money.

You may also have no particular connection to the official church or belong to different denominations or religions. Still, don’t you want to do without a ceremonial ceremony? There is also a solution for this. Freelance theologians who perform a more or less religious wedding according to your wishes – either in a church or in unusual places.

How big do we want to celebrate?

One of the most important questions about the wedding is of course the number of guests. Finally, you have to select the location afterwards. At the same time, it is also one of the most difficult questions. How far should you invite? This becomes independent quickly and you are already with 300 guests …

First think about who you really want to have with you – parents, siblings, grandparents, close friends etc. Of course you don’t want to disappoint anyone, but it is definitely worth considering whether the aunt you might have seen twice in your life and who you have no other contact, you really have to be invited to the wedding. Nobody can make the decision for you, so leave yourself enough time to compile the guest list.

Do you have many friends, who want to include her, one might Polterabend the solution. Then the actual wedding can be smaller and everyone who is not invited can celebrate with you at a hen night in a relaxed atmosphere.

From 100 to 150 guests, locating a place will definitely be more difficult, you should be aware of that.

But there are also very nice rooms for large celebrations – let a wedding service in your region help you in your search. In this size, a wedding planner may be worthwhile . You can find wedding planners near you in the business directory .

ALTERNATIVE: For those who want to escape the hustle and bustle, a wedding for two can be just the thing.

Where do we want to celebrate?

If you both come from different areas or even countries or do not live in your home country, the question of the wedding location often arises. Where should the wedding take place at all? At the current place of residence, in the home of the bride or / and groom or maybe somewhere else?

Just think about where there is / could be a wedding location that meets your expectations. Perhaps you also have a special connection to a church and would like to be married there. Or there is a particularly beautiful registry office in one place. Consider how many guests might have to travel from further afield and need an overnight stay.

Or would you like to escape the hustle and bustle and combine the wedding with the honeymoon? The wedding in the beach  is becoming more popular in times of cheap flights. Many travel agencies and wedding planners can help with this. An adventure wedding can also be the right thing, perhaps you would like to  “marry differently – in Australia or New Zealand” .

In case you want to get married under the stars or marry in nature, then our guide articles read to ” wedding ceremony outdoors ” and ” outdoor wedding ” – then one would Hochzeitswetter insurance a good idea. You can also find beautiful examples of special locations in our photo story “Getting married at a winery”and “Hell & naturally: The greenhouse wedding” .

Even if it sounds banal, the wedding day should be the most beautiful day in your life – that’s why you should feel at home wherever you get married.

In what style do we want to get married?

This wedding question may seem strange to you. But there are so many possibilities that you should already think about it. Should it be rather simple, rural, romantic, ornate, unusual? The bride and groom do not always agree directly.

In our article “Beautiful wedding  styles and color concepts for the wedding” we show you which styles are possible – here you can get inspiration!

The choice of location and location in general is of course closely related to this question. How about a romantic castle, a fairytale castle or should you prefer your cozy favorite restaurant or an elegant hotel? A rustic barn would also be conceivable.

Are you still missing the brilliant idea? Maybe you can find something in our business directory or contact a wedding service.

If you  decide on a somewhat more unusual  theme wedding – e.g. in a medieval style or western look – you should also inform the guests in good time so that they can then match their wardrobe to it.

Our tip: As soon as you have determined the style of the wedding, you should also match the wedding stationery (from the save-the-date to the thank you card)!

How much money can / would we like to spend?

This is an annoying but very important question about the wedding. The cost of a wedding is often underestimated. Therefore, you should think about what you want to spend right at the beginning. Will the parents possibly contribute to the costs? Clarify this as early as possible so that you can plan accordingly, also with regard to the engagement party .

Checks every decision, whether locality, menu, music, other entertainment, clothing, flowers, freelance theologian , etc., always with a view to the budget in order to always have the costs under control.

Maybe your dream wedding cannot be carried out in all details with your budget. In this case, consider carefully at which points you are ready to make compromises. The wedding doesn’t have to be less dreamy. You don’t want to start your new life together with debt either. Small things like tips, ring pillows, guest book etc. are easily forgotten in the cost planning.

You should also plan at least the same amount for drinks as for the menu, so that you don’t experience a nasty surprise on this point.

Remember that, for example, a lot of water is drunk on a hot day or that a few rounds of schnapps come together quickly in the evening or one or the other wine bottle is destroyed.

You can download a budget planner for your wedding here .

wedding loan may also be an option for you. In any case, you should also consider whether a wedding cancellation insurance is useful for you – we will tell you in the article on wedding insurance , for whom it is recommended and who can do without it.

When these questions have been answered, you can prepare well for the detailed planning and look for a location, church, band, etc.